Lisa Opel :: blog posts & short reads
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Stealthing: When consent quietly gets broken
Stealthing, the non-consensual removal of a condom during sex, is a growing concern that challenges how we understand consent, trust, and sexual boundaries. While it often happens quietly, its impact can be significant, affecting both physical safety and emotional wellbeing. This article explains what stealthing is, why it matters, and what you can do if it happens to you, with clear insights, real context, and practical guidance.
Audio Meditation, But Make It Hot: xounds Guided Body Journey by Lisa!
For anyone who’s ever wanted a body check-in without spiritual fluff, this article & audio dives into audio meditation, pleasure, and sound-led awareness. Equal parts educational and playful, with insights into why Xounds feels like the right place for this new kind of listening.
Alien Play in the Bedroom – Your How-To! incl. free PDF
Alien play in the bedroom isn’t just a sci-fi fantasy — it’s a wildly creative, deeply connective way to explore intimacy, curiosity, and pleasure without the usual human expectations. Whether you’re curious about gentle exploration, cheeky tentacle energy, or simply want to break out of your routine with a little extraterrestrial mischief, this guide shows you how to play safely, consensually, and joyfully. From communication tips to toys, scenes, psychology and aftercare, you’ll learn how alien role play can be inclusive, liberating, and surprisingly tender.
Brauch ich einen Sex Therapeuten?
NEUE PODCAST FOLGE: Brauch ich einen Sex Therapeuten? Wann ist Therapie sinnvoll, welche Alternativen es gibt und welche Fragen dir wirklich weiterhelfen.
Sind Orgien einfacher als Dreier?
Mag er sie mehr als mich? Ist der besser als ich? Wenn solche Fragen den Dreier vermiesen, kann eine Orgie überraschend befreiend sein. Eine intime, ehrliche Analyse über Sex, Konsens und Körperwahrheit.
Wer initiiert beim Sex? Wie Mental Load Lust und Nähe beeinflusst
Warum immer ich? Oder: Warum nie du? – diese Fragen höre ich in meiner Praxis ständig.
Die Frage, wer beim Sex initiiert, ist weit mehr als ein kleines Alltagsproblem. Sie berührt Rollenbilder, Macht, das Gefühl gesehen zu werden – und auch die unsichtbare Last, die viele Frauen im Alltag tragen.
Nicht wie so ein Porno! Sex ohne Scham
Was passiert, wenn wir weibliche Lust mit Porno-Klischees verwechseln – und warum das echte, selbstbestimmte Begehren dabei oft verloren geht. Ein Text über Scham, Freiheit und die Rückeroberung deiner Sexualität.
Secret Masturbation in Relationships
We all do it, but we rarely talk about it. That private orgasm behind closed doors, the quick scroll when no one’s watching, the little fantasy you’d never confess out loud. Is it hiding? Is it betrayal? Or is it simply another way of staying connected to yourself while being in a relationship?
Filthy Fantasies: The Taboo Porn No One Talks About
Ever cleared your browser history and thought: what the hell is wrong with me? From step-porn to rape fantasies, daddy roleplay, humiliation, even balloons. Discover the psychology behind taboo porn, why it turns us on, and how to explore your erotic wiring without drowning in shame.
Abgewiesen im Kinky Club Hamburg: Zum ersten Mal in über 20 Jahren
Zum ersten Mal in über 20 Jahren wurden wir im Kinky Club Hamburg abgewiesen. Unsere persönliche Erfahrung mit Dresscode, Fetisch-Szene und Tipps für dich.
Reclaiming Needy Dependence as a Radical Act of Feminism
I was taught to be a strong, independent woman. Never need too much, never ask too loud. But I’m done performing strength through silence. In this piece, I reclaim emotional neediness as a form of feminist power: not a flaw, but a feature. This isn’t self-help. It’s political. It’s personal. And it’s time.
Zervixlust, Traumaheilung und Nervensystem-Balance
Zervixlust, Traumaheilung, Narbenarbeit und Nervensystem-Balance. Inklusive Guide zur Selbst-Exploration und wissenschaftlichen Insights.
Kinky Outfit Guide – Was zieh ich an??
Umfassender Kinky Outfit Guide: Dresscodes verstehen, Looks für jede Körperform & jedes Gender, Komfort-Tipps, Pflegeroutine, Shopping-Liste, Podcast + Freebie.
Degradation Kink: Respected in Life, Degraded in Bed
Why consensual degradation play can actually boost self-esteem, deepen intimacy, and showcase your personal power.
How Voice Messages Help You Discover Your Sexual Voice
Discovering your sexual voice isn’t just about talking dirty—it’s about speaking your truth, owning your desires, and turning your voice into your most intimate pleasure tool. Whether you’re whispering fantasies to a lover or moaning sweet nothings into your own recorder, voice messages can unlock confidence, connection, and seriously hot self-awareness. Ready to moan more and text less? Let’s find the sound of your desire.
How to Be a Dominant Woman in Bed
Ready to take control in the bedroom? Learn how to Dom with style, confidence, and instant command using fun, easy-to-use role archetypes.
Messy Sex: Why I Let Him Ruin My Makeup on Purpose
Letting him ruin your makeup isn’t a mistake—it’s power, passion, and messy sex magic. Discover why getting beautifully wrecked is the new intimacy.
40 Strange Questions To Ask Yourself To Find Out Who You Really Are
Ever caught yourself questioning, well, yourself? Maybe it’s during a 3 a.m. existential crisis or that weirdly insightful shower moment. Asking yourself the right questions can spark self-discovery and a whole lot of “Wait, what?” moments. Buckle up—things are about to get strange!
Doms, Subs, and Brats, Oh My! A Cheeky Guide to Power Play Perfection
Curious about BDSM dynamics? Whether you’re a commanding Dom, a devoted Sub, or a mischievous Brat, this fun and insightful guide breaks down power play, tips for thriving in your role, and how to communicate like a pro—because kink is all about pleasure and consent.
Is Breaking Up Really an Asshole Move?
Breaking up isn’t inherently an asshole move—but doing it poorly is. Here’s a funny, insightful take on why honesty beats staying in a relationship out of guilt.
How to F*ck Like You Mean It: The Art of Passionate, Primal Sex
Forget choreographed, nice sex—it’s time to unleash your wild side. This guide will teach you how to f*ck with passion, intensity, and zero inhibitions. From primal eye contact to using your hands (and teeth) like you mean it, we’re diving into the art of truly losing yourself in the moment. If you’re ready for sex that feels like fire, this is your roadmap.
Scissoring 101: Tips, Tricks, and the Truth
Scissoring: the move everyone’s heard of but no one seems to really understand. Is it real? Does it work? And why does it look so easy in the movies? This playful guide dives into the mechanics, myths, and magic of scissoring—because yes, it can be a thing, but it might not look like what you think. With tips, humor, and practical advice, this article helps you figure out if this thigh-tangling move is for you—and how to make it work (or laugh trying).
Strap In: A Comprehensive Guide to Pegging for Couples
Pegging combines trust, curiosity, and exploration. From prostate stimulation to strap-on fun and the basics of anal play, it’s about finding what excites both of you. Take it slow, use plenty of lube, and enjoy the ride.
Guide to Books on Sexuality
Explore our comprehensive list of books on sexuality, relationships, gender, and more. Whether you’re seeking entertainment or education, this guide has it all.
How to encourage your partner to embrace their dominant side: a playful guide
Discover how to help your partner embrace their dominant side with this playful, insightful guide. Packed with practical tips and expert advice to explore new dynamics together!
Anxious vs. Avoidant vs. Secure Attachment Styles in Relationships
Discover how anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles impact relationships. Learn key triggers, strengths, and tips for navigating love based on your unique attachment style.
Let’s get sexy back: why it’s time to stop overthinking sex and make sex fun again
Can we just take a minute to breathe and remember that sex is supposed to be fun? This article is all about letting go of the pressure, embracing playfulness, and finding simple ways to reconnect with your partner. With easy tips and a focus on lightening up, you’ll rediscover the joy of intimacy—awkward moments, laughter, and all.
A Guide to Trauma Therapy
Is your everyday life haunted by past experiences? Learn about different trauma therapy techniques like CBT, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, and Family Constellation Therapy to heal and reclaim your future.
Ultimate guide to Womanizer: THE Clit Stimulator!
Discover the revolutionary Womanizer adult toy and its innovative Pleasure Air Technology. This comprehensive guide covers its history, benefits, myths, user tips, and how to enhance your sexual wellness and intimacy with a partner.
How to Feel Sexy: Five Tricks to Help Instantly
Knowing how to feel sexy starts from within. In this article you’ll find five easy ways to give you a little boost and get that sexy mill going.
DEEP&DIRTY Podcast :: Kink, Shibari & Core Erotic Being / Vaegabound
Ein Gespräch mit Sascha Achner über Kink, Shibari und unser Core Erotic Being mit Lisa Opel von DEEP&DIRTY (pleasepinchmehard)
Sexuelle Fantasien: Ein Weg zur Selbstentdeckung und sexuellen Befreiung
Erfahre in der Video- und Podcast-Debütfolge von “Melting Vanilla” mit Lisa Opel alles über sexuelle Fantasien und ihre Bedeutung für ein erfüllteres Sexualleben.
Sexuality: A Guide to Professional Resources and Support
Explore comprehensive resources and professional support for sexual health and well-being. Find expert sex therapists, bodyworkers, and coaches to enhance your sexual journey.
The Unscripted Journey of Womanhood: Live Reading at Spot Gallery
Discover ‘Don’t Tell Me How to Be a Woman’: An inspiring event that delves into womanhood, societal expectations, and empowerment at Spot Gallery. Explore, connect, and redefine femininity.
From “Touched Out” to “Touch Hungry”: Unraveling the Language of Touch
Craving touch, but feeling overwhelmed? Are you in a touch-tangle? Dive into the world of touch-starved confusion and discover your way to connection and comfort.
Five questions for a relationship check-in
Ready to spark up your relationship? Explore our five-question relationship check-in and uncover expert insights with playful exercises. How can you keep the flame alive in your love story?
Saint Sass
Explore the empowering world of Saint Sass, a visionary brand that redefines fashion with its bold blend of style and self-determined living. Discover how this Berlin-based startup is making a statement that encourages women to embrace their unique identities and challenge societal norms.
Marina Hoermanseder
Marina Hoermanseder: Redefining Fashion with Artistry and Sustainability – Explore the innovative designs and empowering ethos of this visionary fashion brand.
La Dolce Vulva Statement Socks
Discover ‘La Dolce Vulva’: statement socks redefining fashion with a message of empowerment and self-love. These socks celebrate diversity and support Vulvaversity, challenging beauty norms and promoting sustainability.
Female Pleasure Society – Natural Pleasure Elixir Erfahrungsbericht
Entdecke, wie das Natural Pleasure Elixir der Female Pleasure Society die Lust von Frauen wiederbelebt. Ein Erfahrungsbericht über Sinnlichkeit, Selbstfürsorge und neue Entdeckungen.
TEDx Frankfurt 2023 – TED Talk with Lisa Opel
Lisa Opel takes the spotlight as a distinguished speaker at TEDx Frankfurt 2023! Join us for an independently organized TED Talk event filled with captivating speakers. Lisa delves into the realm of pleasure.
Motherhood, sex and self-exploration
Exploring kinks, BDSM and fetishes can be a powerful way for mums to reclaim their sexuality, practice self-care, and embark on a journey of personal growth and self-exploration. Let me tell you why and how.
Hallo Yoni Online Kongress mit Lisa Opel
VIDEO INTERVIEW (DE) – Der Online Sex Kongress war ein wahres Highlight in diesem Jahr! Als Speakerin hatte ich die Ehre, über das Thema “Lust Verlust” zu sprechen und mit vielen anderen großartigen Expertinnen und Experten zusammenzuarbeiten.
Barre in Hamburg: the ultimate workout for mums
As I sauntered into my first-ever barre workout at the Youpila Studio in Hamburg, I couldn’t help but feel like a fish out of water. I mean, what kind of workout involves a ballet barre and tiny pulses that make your legs feel like they’re made of jelly?
Writing erotic fiction will inspire your sexuality!
Why writing down your naughty thoughts will snowball into so much more and how to get started in the easiest of ways!
OhJaaa! – Sex lieben – Lisa Opel
There were tears, there was laughter and later on there was a lot of sex! Annabell Neuhof and Lisa Opel spoke in OhJaaa! – Sex lieben on WDR about sex, love, passion, parenting and fantasies!
room8 Hamburg – Sex hotel or couple retreat?
Room8 Hamburg is not a sex hotel in the traditional sense. It is a getaway for couples to reconnect. An area untainted by stress, differences and the past. Basically, a hotel room with all the trimmings of a sex party. Read more plus a short story in-situ!
Eltern Magazin #takeover – Unlust als Mutter | pleasepinchmehard
Lisa Opel von pleasepinchmehard erzählt im #elterntakeover im Elternmagazin auf Instagram von ihrer Reise der weiblichen Lust. Mit Tips, Tools und mehr! Hier der Recap.
Where can I find the best FREE & paid Erotica online?
Whether you’re looking for audio, amateur, fetish, kinks, visual, bdsm, sexy stories, apps to guide you through your sexuality, apps for couples, workshops, films etc. With a short description, the type of subscription and in which languages they offer their content, browse through and enjoy.
CHEEX Workshop with Mrs. Lisa O. | Lust & Motherhood
24. September | This workshop is for mothers, mothers to be or simply curious beings. Motherhood and sexuality is another taboo topic, although there are so many things to talk about.
Sex as a mother: another patriarchal to-do on my list?
Now, hear me out. I am most definitely one to poke the beehive. And I am ALWAYS the one to lower the tone. So when my friend told me how she would have sex with her husband so he would stop nagging her I was completely dumbfounded.
LIVE READING LESECAFÉ IM STADTPARK HAMBURG
Mrs. Lisa O. loves to read her own stories aloud. Join her on the 11. September in the wonderful Lesecafé for a live reading! Video will follow!
Female pleasure & how to find yours
Lots of sex, no sex, self-pleasure, no pleasure, intimacy, sensuality and more… Tell me, what do you desire?
Not so easy to answer, right? But you’re in the right place. Let’s work through this together.
An easy 3-minute guide to sensual domination with CHEEX workshop
Want to find your inner dominant persona? Need tips on what to ACTUALLY do with your sub? This CHEEX Workshop had it all! Compact & easy!
The ultimate guide on how to talk to your partner about kinks and fetishes
What are kinks & fetishes, what’s the difference, how do I talk to my partner about my desires, how do I identify my kink or fetish plus an ABC glossary of popular kinks & fetishes.
Fresh Valentine’s Day Ideas for Long-term Relationship Couples
There is so much more to being intimate than getting jiggy between the sheets (or on top of them). And so this blogpost offers Valentine’s Day ideas for those in long-term relationships looking for something fresh to reignite that intimacy.
Long-term relationship sex: 10+ ideas to spice up your Valentine’s Day!
Step-by-step guide for couples in long-term relationships to make this Valentine’s Day the hottest of the year! Easy and no pressure!
Women need women (Hello Skirt Club!)
Have you recently been wondering if you could be attracted to women? Are you shy and want to rub shoulders with empowered women? Do you wish you could explore your sexuality? Come on in to the female-only club of the century!
How to feel good enough.
Self-love, self-confidence and self-worth:
These words and concepts all start with the word self. Remember that. You are wanting to be good enough for yourself. And what that means, is up to you. Not what it means to Susan or Karen, only you.
Free romantic gifts that keep on giving!
Especially for you, here are not only free romantic gift ideas for your partner but also ideas to keep things hot and loving during the season and on top: how to stay connected to yourself when things get a little too much.
Mrs Lisa O. is in a long-term relationship and knows the challenges that present themselves in all partnerships. Hence her will to tidy up with myths and fight stigma! pleasepinchmehard gives you all those sexy naughty things you daren’t ask anyone about.
SHORT READS:
pleasepinchmehard short reads are my random musings on all things pleasure, parenting, identity & more. Always rambly, honest, raw and vulnerable.
Stealthing: When consent quietly gets broken
Stealthing, the non-consensual removal of a condom during sex, is a growing concern that challenges how we understand consent, trust, and sexual boundaries. While it often happens quietly, its impact can be significant, affecting both physical safety and emotional wellbeing. This article explains what stealthing is, why it matters, and what you can do if it happens to you, with clear insights, real context, and practical guidance.
Audio Meditation, But Make It Hot: xounds Guided Body Journey by Lisa!
For anyone who’s ever wanted a body check-in without spiritual fluff, this article & audio dives into audio meditation, pleasure, and sound-led awareness. Equal parts educational and playful, with insights into why Xounds feels like the right place for this new kind of listening.
Alien Play in the Bedroom – Your How-To! incl. free PDF
Alien play in the bedroom isn’t just a sci-fi fantasy — it’s a wildly creative, deeply connective way to explore intimacy, curiosity, and pleasure without the usual human expectations. Whether you’re curious about gentle exploration, cheeky tentacle energy, or simply want to break out of your routine with a little extraterrestrial mischief, this guide shows you how to play safely, consensually, and joyfully. From communication tips to toys, scenes, psychology and aftercare, you’ll learn how alien role play can be inclusive, liberating, and surprisingly tender.
Wer initiiert beim Sex? Wie Mental Load Lust und Nähe beeinflusst
Warum immer ich? Oder: Warum nie du? – diese Fragen höre ich in meiner Praxis ständig.
Die Frage, wer beim Sex initiiert, ist weit mehr als ein kleines Alltagsproblem. Sie berührt Rollenbilder, Macht, das Gefühl gesehen zu werden – und auch die unsichtbare Last, die viele Frauen im Alltag tragen.
Nicht wie so ein Porno! Sex ohne Scham
Was passiert, wenn wir weibliche Lust mit Porno-Klischees verwechseln – und warum das echte, selbstbestimmte Begehren dabei oft verloren geht. Ein Text über Scham, Freiheit und die Rückeroberung deiner Sexualität.
Secret Masturbation in Relationships
We all do it, but we rarely talk about it. That private orgasm behind closed doors, the quick scroll when no one’s watching, the little fantasy you’d never confess out loud. Is it hiding? Is it betrayal? Or is it simply another way of staying connected to yourself while being in a relationship?
Stealthing: When consent quietly gets broken
Audio Meditation, But Make It Hot: xounds Guided Body Journey by Lisa!
Alien Play in the Bedroom – Your How-To! incl. free PDF
Brauch ich einen Sex Therapeuten?
Sind Orgien einfacher als Dreier?
Wer initiiert beim Sex? Wie Mental Load Lust und Nähe beeinflusst
Nicht wie so ein Porno! Sex ohne Scham
Secret Masturbation in Relationships
Filthy Fantasies: The Taboo Porn No One Talks About
Abgewiesen im Kinky Club Hamburg: Zum ersten Mal in über 20 Jahren
Reclaiming Needy Dependence as a Radical Act of Feminism
Zervixlust, Traumaheilung und Nervensystem-Balance
Kinky Outfit Guide – Was zieh ich an??
Degradation Kink: Respected in Life, Degraded in Bed
How Voice Messages Help You Discover Your Sexual Voice
How to Be a Dominant Woman in Bed
Messy Sex: Why I Let Him Ruin My Makeup on Purpose
40 Strange Questions To Ask Yourself To Find Out Who You Really Are
Doms, Subs, and Brats, Oh My! A Cheeky Guide to Power Play Perfection
Is Breaking Up Really an Asshole Move?
How to F*ck Like You Mean It: The Art of Passionate, Primal Sex
Scissoring 101: Tips, Tricks, and the Truth
Strap In: A Comprehensive Guide to Pegging for Couples
Guide to Books on Sexuality
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